Although I agree good monitors and acoustic treatment is very important, but don't forget that familiarness of the system with commercial recordings is vital...dont spend $1000s on equipment and not learn what major label recording sound like on them...you'd rather be familiar with somewhat cheaper but quality equipment.
Sadly, that's not the way it works.
The problem with your approach is that your "references" have already been produced in a neutral and accurate environment and will thus sound great on every medium, playback system and acoustic environment. This is the whole point of mastering. BTW, I am not sure why a major label should sound "better" and an indie, fact is, audiophiles have their own niche labels where they use to buy super high quality recordings.
So, the situation will not improve: You will notice that record XY sounds great on your system, you will be happy with your sound in your studio, but the results will still be totally unpredictable and unreliable as soon the environment changes. And you still don't know why! at the same time, the record XY behaves properly on other systems - without giving a clue about the true reasons behind.
The only reason why your productions sound fine in your studio and bad outside your studio is the quality of your monitoring system! This is the bottle neck. And no, there's absolutely nothing to "learn" about natural and neutral monitors - such tools allow you to deliver a perfectly reliable sound nearly "over night". You don't need talent for monitoring, just the right tools.
Try to paint realistic portraits while wearing blurry pink glasses - the colors will be a mess and the shapes and lines as blurry as the glasses. This will automatically happen, no matter how much you learned your glasses. If your monitoring system blurs and colors like the glasses mentioned above, you are fvcked - you will never be able to draw a fine, accurate line. At least not intentionally, by luck maybe. You neither know if you drew a fine line by chance, you don't even know how it looks like!
This is exactly what happens in so many bedroom studios. People buy expensive gear and plugins, waste hours mixing their material, and declare monitoring as a "secondary" "prestige" thing. Just to find out (often after years of struggle and pain!!) that the only cause for their problems was that they actually never really "heard" what they produced and thus all their decisions were wrong. Plain and simple, the blind men tjlee87 mentioned above.
Regarding monitoring, you fight with physics! Not with your talent! Take it seriously and avoid years of struggle.
There is no such thing as "learning" monitors.