Less compression, turn things down and turn your speakers up.
NOOOOOOO!!! Don't do that no!
What you just described is the "mastering" process of your beats. This is usually done with compression / limiting (to keep it short) on your master bus.
You see you sound like you described that your track is all under 0db even with the kicks and stuff so your beat is quiet, but when you bring up the volume it goes above 0db. Is that correct? Without the mastering process of your beats, it won't sound loud at all and your peaks jump everywhere. Show you some examples.
This is a track of mine I did a few months back. This is what you're concerned about. Your percussion stick out of the mix and gives your waveform this spikey look. I knew what mastering was back then but I never really played around with it. So this is how it looks.
This is another track of mine. More recent.
I'm not claiming to be a pro in any way shape or form since I am literally still learning but this would be how a mastered track should look.
On this track there's a lot less spikes jumping out of the general waveform, and despite the power of the kicks and snares, there is no (or maybe very little in this example) "breathing" of the compressor (where every time a kick or snare hits, the general volume of the track goes down and struggles back up again).
So you need to read up on "Mastering". Be aware tho that this will take away from the power of your kicks / snares and there are ways to recover some of the punch without clipping and ducking in volume.
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