Way back when, I was in bands. Always.
To be fair, I do think it was easier 20 years ago to hook up with local players... Every record shop (of which round my ends there are now much fewer) had posters up by singers/rappers/guitarist/drummers/bassist/etc and bands looking for what they were missing... There's also (certainly here) less live music going on than there once was.
Local gigs were always a good place to meet players...
I guess you just need to get out as much as possible... Go to every local show you can, take a pocket full of usb-flash drives with a couple of your beats on it... Get your face out there and have conversations... Be cool as **** and have some fire when they plug in that usb!