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good post
For the dudes with wifey...
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biggrome
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It works! before it gets to the point where the other person is upset... they can throw out your secret word to tell you to check yourself. Argument avoided.
I see some couples looking at each other with that "wait til we get home face" when one of 'em is not liking what's going down and don't know how to say it without killing the vibe of the setting.
Works great at parties.
... doesn't work so well at home. Actually, it's only for outings. Keeps you out of the rumor mill.
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I watch what doesn't work... and then I don't do it.
... been doing that all my life with almost everything in my life.
You can't force anything to work but you damn sure can avoid what doesn't.
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kahliljn
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He cant answer that. There is no secret to human behavior. If we knew what to excpect or how to handle every situation then know one would be divorced because everyone would work out their differences stay together and be happy.
Some peoples personalities just clash well together, not just on a sexual level, but mentally, spiratually, and emotionally. Those are usually the people who have strong marriages that stand the test of time.
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Perfect example of what I was talking about. Ive yet to meet an older couple who weren't truely happy in their marraige.
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WatchWhatHappens1204
"Now you's can't leave."
Alotta real talk goin on in this thread that I concur with.
Key point in marriages is to make sure that each partner is a person you can be with for life. MEETING the right person, but NOT HUNTING for them. But all that's out the window, cuz nowadays people don't care about anything. Nobody's willing to put in work, and people are too programmed into just dealing with each other even though they know there's better out there for them. One cause of inherent problems that won't ever go away.
The single life
......... I'm so prepared to die alone right now, it's not even funny. Even though I'm talking to girls, have met girls, and will continue to meet girls, I already know how I am and where my true standards for women lay, and I already have to bury my own standards to even deal with a high percentage of... today's modern females.
I'm not guaranteed, but pretty sure the divorce rate is now higher than ever, and probably won't be dropping anytime soon.
Times change, AND people change. The only thing constant is change.
Make sure your relationships can adapt to change, or make sure the stability YOU as a MAN create for your relationship is adaptable to the changes of the outside world.
I'm just sayin though :smokinFP:
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Some single people are great observers. If you're smart enough and you see everyone around you f*ckin up, you can't help but take notes.
Another reason: I don't need to be burned at the stake to know that fire hurts.
It's just sad today that most people do need to be shot to really understand what bullets do.
... Furthermore, it sucks that we'll never be able to see a study of what exact percentage of the population can be put in the idiot category, but in many places there's plenty real-life examples of Jerry Springer and Maury Povich... ON ALL LEVELS, POOR TO WEALTHY.
On another note, that's why I love FP, bottom line. To be able to come on here and read through threads like this gives me a good feeling that there are some THINKERS out there.
On even another note, I've seen plenty examples of people in relationships, including marriages, that just co-exist... and convince themselves what they're doing... or dealing with... is right......... and time heals almost all wounds, right? I'm not surprised that some couples can reach old age happily without having a marriage anywhere close to perfect.
"They SEEM happy."
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P.S. Take note of my avatar, please lol.
Key point in marriages is to make sure that each partner is a person you can be with for life. MEETING the right person, but NOT HUNTING for them. But all that's out the window, cuz nowadays people don't care about anything. Nobody's willing to put in work, and people are too programmed into just dealing with each other even though they know there's better out there for them. One cause of inherent problems that won't ever go away.
The single life
......... I'm so prepared to die alone right now, it's not even funny. Even though I'm talking to girls, have met girls, and will continue to meet girls, I already know how I am and where my true standards for women lay, and I already have to bury my own standards to even deal with a high percentage of... today's modern females. I'm not guaranteed, but pretty sure the divorce rate is now higher than ever, and probably won't be dropping anytime soon.
Times change, AND people change. The only thing constant is change.
Make sure your relationships can adapt to change, or make sure the stability YOU as a MAN create for your relationship is adaptable to the changes of the outside world.
I'm just sayin though :smokinFP:
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Some single people are great observers. If you're smart enough and you see everyone around you f*ckin up, you can't help but take notes.
Another reason: I don't need to be burned at the stake to know that fire hurts.
It's just sad today that most people do need to be shot to really understand what bullets do.
... Furthermore, it sucks that we'll never be able to see a study of what exact percentage of the population can be put in the idiot category, but in many places there's plenty real-life examples of Jerry Springer and Maury Povich... ON ALL LEVELS, POOR TO WEALTHY.
On another note, that's why I love FP, bottom line. To be able to come on here and read through threads like this gives me a good feeling that there are some THINKERS out there.
On even another note, I've seen plenty examples of people in relationships, including marriages, that just co-exist... and convince themselves what they're doing... or dealing with... is right......... and time heals almost all wounds, right? I'm not surprised that some couples can reach old age happily without having a marriage anywhere close to perfect.
"They SEEM happy."
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P.S. Take note of my avatar, please lol.
kahliljn
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Because they're divorced.
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. Aye I think its the age we live in. Most young couples dont last because they've lost touch or never had an idea in the first place of what it takes to actually be in a commited relationship. Most people nowadays dont have a clue. Me personally Ion give a fuyck. If I die unwed ol' well.
[F_or_DEAF]
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make sure? how you do that?
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today's modern females? elaborate, please...
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yeah...but why is that?
deanlofts
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People just won't take crap anymore.
there's a thin line between "crap" and ups and DOWNS...
Yea but also note that those couples were once a young a couple too. No older then any of us right now (im guessing 16-35), and they were still able to make it work and stay happy.That brings me back to what Troup said earlier.You can't let the relationship get boring, you got to keep it fun and spontaneous.
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definitely...
Ups and down are more like things that can be compromised
"Crap" can fall under the unfaithfulness and domestic abuse category
Kaminota
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I did not read everything. I just wanted to comment.
My wife never supported my music career. Why? Cause she knew that once I got the attention, she would become the 3rd maybe 4th thing on my mind. She saw way too many BEHIND THE MUSIC episodes on VH1. LOL!
She also becomes very jealous when women take an interest in my musical abilities.
A relationship is work. Both parties got to give a lot. If you can't maintain it when you need one another's support the most. What you think it is gonna happen when you got money and fame along with a ton of hoes getting at you and her spending all her time along or with the kids... without you.
In all honesty my wife is right. Money and fame are a hell of drug. One that all men are subject to weakness. That's why I'm not to big on fame. I need money to pay for all my desires, responsibilities, and bad habits. So it's need.
So, one way to make a relationship work in any event is to be determined, loving, caring, and mature, if not anything else. Once you stop caring about her or she you. It's over. Got to have good communication and understanding.
My wife never supported my music career. Why? Cause she knew that once I got the attention, she would become the 3rd maybe 4th thing on my mind. She saw way too many BEHIND THE MUSIC episodes on VH1. LOL!
She also becomes very jealous when women take an interest in my musical abilities.
A relationship is work. Both parties got to give a lot. If you can't maintain it when you need one another's support the most. What you think it is gonna happen when you got money and fame along with a ton of hoes getting at you and her spending all her time along or with the kids... without you.
In all honesty my wife is right. Money and fame are a hell of drug. One that all men are subject to weakness. That's why I'm not to big on fame. I need money to pay for all my desires, responsibilities, and bad habits. So it's need.
So, one way to make a relationship work in any event is to be determined, loving, caring, and mature, if not anything else. Once you stop caring about her or she you. It's over. Got to have good communication and understanding.
WatchWhatHappens1204
"Now you's can't leave."
Best way I knew how to quote everything...
1) When you really break it down, it's not hard for both people in a relationship to understand each other IN DEPTH... like, how good of a man, or how good of a woman... like, sharing any kind of similar values, morals, etc... like, knowing and understanding that IT'S OKAY TO ARGUE AND FIGHT, but also understanding how to APOLOGIZE, FORGIVE, AND COMPROMISE... they all sound rather obvious to me, but it's crazy the things some people just don't care to think about at all...
Further-and deeper-more, when you find someone that's willing to travel down life's path with you, take a good look at the emotional time invested as well, and also look at the integrity of the person (another thing most people don't do)... for example, is this person after me for my money/material goods/etc?... or what type of standards for living does that person hold?
EDIT At this point I began to describe a long distance relationship I was going to use as an example, but understandably so, those don't really apply, when compared... so moving on...
Now that I've taken up so much space though -
2) Today's modern females... raised on media hype and mainstream surface culture, the ones brought up (or who brought themselves up) on superficial BS values... n***a you know
-the golddiggers
-the straight hoes
-the pathological liers
-the straight b*tches (racist, discriminative, stereotype using included)
- and they come in ALL SHAPES AND SIZES (AND COLORS AND RACES)
3)This Y or Z or w/e generation, unlike the decades of generations before it, has a critical LACK OF PATIENCE problem... The technology (the "i want it right now") age... people can't wait for/sit thru/take time to digest/comprehend/understand anything anymore. The split second something starts going wrong, half of em are dashing out the door.
There are other halves to this interesting phenomenon though (on my scientistical shit)... Most men out there have become... well...
... TPOM is real.
Part of it grew in power with the rise of the deadbeat dad. Women raising children AS MEN... straight ingredients for conflict... Most dudes out there nowadays are straight ************* (imma leave it alone)... the hype now is stronger than ever, society is ran on media, and almost everyone is on the page of emulating what they see. Just as dudes can be fake gangstas, in the same way, they can destroy their own families at the same time.
There's also ALOTTA in between as well... and out of this sub-category, there are things I see that I can't agree with at all, like HABITUAL CHEATING or DOMESTIC ABUSE. Further than that, it actually gets personal, so I gotta leave it there.
I took up half a chapter for this, hope it made some sense though. Remember... (shout out to Rome) TPOM is REAL.
"Stay thirsty my friends." j/k
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biggrome
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somebody buy this man a beer!
Just to bump this up... and I agree. lol
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:rofl:LOL! Man I had the same views... but I want children without having a "baby mama" and child support payments aint a good look so Im gonna have to go with the "system"(relationships) smh. My gal and I end up fighting over trivial shyt like facebook and my porn collection smh. All i ever had was chics that i smashed, never anyone to "claim" until recently, at the age of 25 Im realizing whatever the hell I thought was MY personal business is now becoming HERS also. smh. Even got told "Listen, you are no longer you, its now just US, we are ONE" ...But she makes a mean hot plate and I cant cook... its hard out here for ah young producer living in da bricks kat daddy lol.
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WatchWhatHappens1204
"Now you's can't leave."
Learn to cook homie lol. Learn also that there's a couple billion others out there. Don't commit just because you feel like you have to. That "you are no longer you" shit sounds creepy as hell lol.
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... and I also know what that's like! I'm 27 now, so we close, but I've seen that BS implemented from up close and personal TO the long distance thing... how can a chic try n claim that from long distance??? lmao... More I think about it, more it sounds like a system to me too, good way of putting it!
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... and I also know what that's like! I'm 27 now, so we close, but I've seen that BS implemented from up close and personal TO the long distance thing... how can a chic try n claim that from long distance??? lmao... More I think about it, more it sounds like a system to me too, good way of putting it!
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biggrome
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It took me YEARS to get that one right. Everytime I would say something like, "Hey man, come out to my spot..." or "I have to cut my grass..." there was silence and no dinner, lol. Then I would get told... ITS OUR HOUSE! ITS OUR GRASS!
... it got so bad I was wondered if I had to start saying stuff like "I have to cut our hair" or "We have to take a piss..."
Once you master that skill... ish gets easier, lol. It's not TPOM, it's avoiding unnecessary argruments and spats.
It literally took me YEARS... to get it right.
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FP... biggrome needs a favor (wow, third person, lol)
I need you to click on this thread and listen to some music by a fellow FP member - let him know you checked it out too. Come On... do it for ol Romey Rome.
https://www.futureproducers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=361680
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