"tradition", "right", and "normal" are all created and defined by each individual culture within society.
Keeping in mind that humans are highly evolved animals...
Societal norms are just that...made by society. When I was little, I loved Boy George's music. That Karma Chamellion video was the best thing on MTV. I knew he dressed like a girl...but it didn't influence me to do it.
Ahem... I've seen you dressed as woman on two occasions (those are the only two I've seen...). Once on your Ustream show and another on a photo you posted, lol. I know you were getting your Tyler Perry on but still... they get paid for it so it's more "passable". Dressing up like a woman doesn't really cross most dudes minds, dressing up as Mr. T or somebody is equally as funny... for most dudes.
I've also seen you in numerous pink "things" and you stood up for the man purse, lol. I'm not questioning your sexuality or anything but these types of things are the sort of things that most men wouldn't "bandwagon" on to.
You talked about birds and fish. I'm not a bird or fish. I live by the tried and true social norms of human society. A man as a protector and a woman as a caretaker. We don't model our lives after birds and dolphins and they don't model theirs after ours.
I won't give answers to these and I hope most people can get at least 90% of the answers right ...
If a family is being attacked by a burglar.... whose "role" is it to protect the family?
If the kids clothes are dirty, whose role is it to wash and fold their clothes?
If the furnace goes out and needs to be repaired, who should at least look at the furnace first to see if it's something that can be fixed with a small repair, and who should perform that repair?
Who normally takes care of the kids when they are sick in a heterosexual two parent household?
Who normally changes the oil in the vehicles and normally oversees most mechanical problems around the house and with the vehicles?
I don't know how some of you grew up but I grew up around A LOT of male influence. Their roles in their households influenced me to AUTOMATICALLY do the things I feel a man should do. The science behind it all isn't 100% but it's still the most effective way to run a relationship and a family. You will have to bend, compromise and all of that. I wash and fold my own clothes because my kids have so many dirty clothes that my wife has to wash and fold. I actually run water on my dirty dishes to try to help her out... so the gender lines aren't solid but they're also not blurred in my home. They're probably more dotted (with little tiny tiny dots) more than anything.
Don't have your kids turn out like Kanye West. Men aren't supposed to put their hands on their hips and suck their teeth when they get mad.
Lastly, if there were nothing wrong with "what they're doing", there would be no need to be ashamed of it. Why is a big deal to be OPEN about it? Why do people commit suicide when their families find out? Because they know what they are SUPPOSED to like, they just let their perversion get in the way. The people that are out of the closet... get more props than the ones that are in it to me.
Even though I don't deal with any of them if I can avoid it.