Most of the above suggestions are probably going to add to the problem. Are people even reading the issue or just regurgitating generic bass drum treatments?
I think the problem is that your monitoring system and environment is not fit to deal with low-end mixing. This leads to overcompensating and can lead to muddiness or general sound issues. Bass drums have a ton of low end energy. Most probably have too much low end. I find that for 90% of bass drums, I'm rolling off most of the low-end to the point where I end up with a good amount of low-mids and some mids. On its own, this can sound sort of thin and eliminate some of the point of the bass drum. I then do some hard limiting on the bass drum and because there's still a good amount of energy in the lows (even after rolling off a significant amount). The limiter is going to squeeze the mids down to the level of the lows and give me a punchy bass drum that has good low-end energy but with mids so that it can be audible on smaller speakers.
In short, you probably have more bass than what you actually need.