Fu(k, I'm the worst at mixing, I have yet to even worry about it because I want to get good at actually making a beat first, I pump out 5 rough beats instead of one perfectly mixed.
It's crazy though, some dudes say the drums ain't loud, too loud, not hitting, to soft ect.. and it's always a different response so I change it up each time. I need to find a sweet spot at some point, or it's my monitors, I dunno, but yeah I'm no mix master Mike, need to start reading up on it to get better, and listen to it in the car first, when I play it in the car I can hear what needs to be changed much better on my monitors it sounds good, then again I don't have a sub hooked up so can't really tell. I bet when I bring it to the car I'll know exactly what you mean.