I saw deftones at tha garage - there were no barriers so you could go right up to the stage, so that was wicked. I got to say though, for moshing, its got to be One minute silence! Some crazy sht, in the days of the first album that is. I haven't seen them recently, but I remember people behind the bars moshing aswell.
For the actual music, I think it would have to be the slackers, or incubus were quite good at the Astoria