This particular song- here's what strikes me:
The Kick's pitch is out of key and I honestly think that's the
majority of what you're talking about.
If my song is in C major and my kick's mostly at 70 hz, which is where C
sharp lies, it's going to sound off not matter what processing I do.
When every melodic instrument and drum (and vocal) are in key, it allows you to raise the overall level of every track because it sounds naturally appealing.
Beyond that, I wouldn't be eqing more than high shelves and high pass filters. If you
need more than that, you're either a 10 year vet in the industry or trying to do too much using eq.
Oh and I didn't check for it when I listened, but make sure you're "de-noising" your vocals.
Wow... just read that you said "the beat is from youtube"..
That, I believe, is your problem sir...
Not going to delete what I already typed.
De-noise your vocals, pitch them if you're educated on it, high pass filter them to 80-200 hz, compress them 3-9 dB, and compress the entire mix, beat plus vocals, 1-2 dB.
Cheers