This loudness war issue is driving me up the wall...
Then don't bother with it. You're just learning techniques that will be obsolete soon.
There's currently a real push in the industry to end it once and for all, and the auto levelling algorhytms going up mean that already on a lot of the big services that super loud mix isn't doing you any good and will just get turned down. At the lower volume it's just gonna sound flat compared to tracks to do retain their dynamic range.
Also, if you do want to compete.. the only way to really get a good loud as fuck mix that sounds great is to deliver a well balanced mix to a really good mastering engineer.
He can then make it pump, but he'll probably tell you that, to do that, he actually needs a good balance, and a lot of dynamics.. so you're still back to square one
Slap a limiter on your master bus if you want some loudness, otherwise, don't bother. Music doesn't naturally sound good at that level, it's not meant to. You can work at it, and make it appear to sound good..
but you sacrifice a lot. And seriously, fuck people with shitty speakers.. I'm not stooping to that level. Let them get better ones if they want to enjoy my music as it was meant to be enjoyed. Otherwise I'm not
taking them or their opinions serious.